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Many Odd Things


I remember when I first started running in to online Goreans from a little online group called Silk and Steel. It was over 20+ years ago.

This was a small group of individuals who believed and thought they were self entitled, priviledged and tried to tell others that they represented the Gorean Philosophy, the Gorean Ethos and virtues. Sometimes, they even proclaim to gullible people they founded Gor, and the Gorean Philosophy and Ethos originated from them! No integrity.

In reality, they were none of these, and after a few short years Silk and Steel self destructed due to overinflated egos, deceit and infighting. After the spectacular implosion, many went underground, (for good reasons noted below); or  gradually found their way to a new online social media website known as Fetlife.

I have disagreed and clashed with the remaining stragglers from this group over many, many years. I recently wrote an amusing post in My Blog called Amusing Things About Online Goreans.

Over many years, I have been called

  • a roleplayer – (while most of them roleplayed in various capacities)
  • an online Gorean, (though many of them have logged hundreds, if not thousands of hours online)
  • a BDSM’er –  (not relevant to the conversation), but yup – a proud kinkster I am
  • a rainbow Gorean – (I am a straight heterosexual, but am an ally to LGBQT causes)
  • a sexist – ABSOLUTELY
  • head of a sex cult – Nope, just open minded, have a very high and prolonged sex drive and am sex positive
  • etc. etc


There have been many, many odd things about people from Silk and Steel that I found amusing and I decided to keep them all at arms length. Some of the more interesting ones are as follows –

  • Almost all of them started off online roleplaying, yet are quick to knock down anyone else who admits they started off online as well, but are now asking questions about Gor sincerely
  • Most are very homophobic, and get really pissed when you show them their own hypocrisy of having slaves that are bisexual, heteroflexible, etc.. I made up a list once, exposing the number of online Goreans from this group who had; or presently have, slaves who are LGBQT friendly, and you should have seen the shit hit the fan!
  • Many were very vocal and against BDSM, but secretly practiced and enjoyed it. Over the years, many have been found out and exposed for their hypocrisy. Nowadays, it is not as big an issue (wonder why not)
  • There have been several from this group who have been abusers, committed sexual assaults, cheated in their marriages, etc..
  • There was one Gorean who has committed numerous sexual assaults, is a sexual predator, and remains active in this circle. It was even more shocking, when this past March another person, a friend from his Home Stone in Chicago defended him, stating “vague and unsubstantiated attacks on someone else” in a post in the Gorean Gathering Place. This was in March, two months AFTER another sexual assault by the same person in a Chicago Home Stone meeting in January of the same year!
  • There have been self proclaimed announcements that one or more people from this group founded Gor. Untrue and very odd. An accurate timeline of the Gorean community history can be found on the Ontario Gorean Assembly website.
  • There has been self proclaimed announcements that a Free woman is the last remaining one. Apparently she also calls herself a leader on numerous occasions. Odd.
  • There is one Gorean, who claims to have a FC and a slave for numerous years. No evidence of photos, interaction or anyone talking, meeting or knowing these two women after more than 20 years. I found this odd, and questioned him on it. He got quite pissy, and told me to prove it. (A very odd reaction and statement). I suspect he lives alone. No one has met either of them since last century, (the slave was met supposedly by one person in 1998). No one has talked online or met either since. Very, very odd.
  • This same Gorean talks about community, yet has never met any Goreans living in his own city of Chicago! The three most vocal and visible Goreans from online are all from this group and all live in the same city! Very odd indeed.
  • Monies were stolen from a collection to help pay for one of the members divorces.
  • At two or their Gatherings, several girls were sexually assaulted by several men. Apparently that is okay.
  • The whole mentality of ‘WE Goreans….”.  They use “we” as it speaks to a false sense of ownership and elitism. They have tried for many years to use “we” to lord over any online forums. If you ask them, they will tell you that “we” have decided everything for everyone else to follow and obey. “We” figured it all out. Utter nonsense.
  • There was a heated argument this past year, when one Gorean from this group said that John Norman wrote about pedophilia in his Books, and that “…NO homosexual was ever portrayed in a good way in the books…”
  • There is another Free woman who continues to lie and make up things on a regular basis. I wrote about this person last year. She has even created and falsified court documents of Dragon, and passed them around to numerous people, attacking Dragon, claiming that they were real. A sad thing and very odd.
  • Another Gorean from this group who admits he had no problem regularly using falsehoods against those he perceived as enemies, in order to win an argument.
  • Several from Silk and Steel have been banned from most Gorean Gatherings, or have been booted out of their own Home Stone. A total disgrace!

These are just a few glaring examples. They will try and claim the moral high ground. The simple practice of teaching and practising the Modern Day Gorean Ethos is one that they do not follow, but expect and demand from others.

Gorean ethics focuses on an individual striving to live a rich and full Life by practicing doing right by his own standards, convictions and direction.

    Goreans stress the importance on truth. Seeking the truth is important, maintaining honesty in all actions concerning any matter or subject, or generally on all subjects.
    Goreans stress the importance on integrity. Being true to yourself, keeping your word, adherence to moral and ethical principles; act upon the soundness of moral character.
    Goreans stress the importance on honour. That which attracts self respect, dignity and courage; especially excellence of character, high moral worth, virtue, and nobleness.
    Goreans stress the importance on freedom. The state of being free or at liberty. To establish personal sovereignty over oneself, and those under our responsibilities. By our action, word and choice.
    Goreans stress the importance on strength. Accepting accountability for your choices, and standing against adversity and opposition. Acting with boldness, perseverance and self reliance.
  • DUTY
    Goreans stress the importance on duty. The binding force of something that is morally or legally right, A call to respect or obedience to country, family or position.

They talk and argue about the Gorean Philosophy. They talk and argue about the Gorean Ethos. They do not practice or follow their own advice. They have no integrity, do not speak the truth, and show no honour. They have failed miserably on numerous occasions. Their words, actions and deeds show otherwise.

The official motto of Silk and Steel – “We are not the same, therefore we are not equal.” Absolutely true and thank God they, and I, are different. I have, and will continue to keep anyone from Silk and Steel at arms length for many, many good reasons.

Yes, there have been many, many odd things about people from Silk and Steel indeed.


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Amusing Things From Online Goreans



Why I must not be Gorean….


For over 20 years, I have heard many amusing things about why I was not a Gorean. Most of these have come from online Goreans that have had a wealth of experience online….. (not real Life); but they have been banned from most Gorean Gatherings, been booted out of their own Home Stone, been caught forging or falsifying court documents, continue to be a sexual predator and caught numerous times with sexual assault, or have helped enable a sexual predator, or have not met or refuse to meet any Goreans offline since the turn of the century (if at all).


The following are some of the things I have been told why I must not be Gorean….

  1. I did not come from online, have not logged hundreds or thousands of hours roleplaying online, and nobody there knows me, so I must not be Gorean.
  2. I am too involved with organising and running successful kink related events and educational seminars, so I must not be Gorean.
  3. I am an ally to the LGBQT community, even a Board member of a couple of Board of Directors, so I must not be Gorean.
  4. I have the Triskelion embedded in my Home Stone banner, so I must not be Gorean.
  5. I am a Leatherman, so I must not be Gorean.
  6. I am openly kinky, so I must not be Gorean.
  7. I am an Associate of a 1% biker club, as well as a liaison of the Waterloo Regional Police Services, so I must not be Gorean.
  8. I have spoke openly that sexual orientation has nothing to do with being Gorean, so I must not be Gorean.
  9. I have spoke openly that kink has nothing to do with being Gorean, but that you can be BOTH Gorean and kinky; so I must not be Gorean.
  10. I have not joined enough dead or nonactive Gorean based groups on Fetlife to prove my Goreaness, so I must not be Gorean.
  11. I refused to quit being kinky for 1 year when demanded, to prove my Goreaness, so I must not be Gorean.
  12. I am an individual who can think, act and speak openly against things I disagree with, so I must not be Gorean.
  13. I keep most people associated with Silk and Steel at arms length, and other online venues such as Second Life; so I must not be Gorean.
  14. I mock those who proclaim they invented being Gorean and are the founder(s) of Gor; so I must not be Gorean.
  15. I oppose and strongly disagree that there is only ‘one twue way’, so I must not be Gorean.
  16. I do not speak or understand Kassar, so I must not be Gorean.
  17. I do not use a Roman/Greek/Viking name, but use my actual name; so I must not be Gorean.
  18. I do not say I hail from Ar, Thentis, Port  Kar or any other fictional city mentioned in the Gor Books, to show my Goreaness; so I must not be Gorean.
  19. I believe that a man is limited by the sword of others, literally; (with fists if necessary); not by keyboard warriors hiding behind a screen using a computer to fight their battles, so I must not be Gorean.
  20. I will address myself as a Master at times. I have even had “MASTER Rocker” used in signing off on some of my writings just to piss some off for my amusement; so I must not be Gorean.
  21. I refuse to take any sides in the ongoing battle of wills and wits between the two major Gorean camps of idiot thinking, so I must not be Gorean.
  22. I refused to allow either of the Gorean camps of idiot thinking to bring their drama and petty flamewars into the Gorean Gathering Place; so I must not be Gorean.
  23. I have openly admonished several of the self proclaimed leaders of Gor, for not following my rules of engaging in the Gorean Gathering Place; banning a couple of people, and correcting and admonishing others openly; so I must not be Gorean.
  24. I give my actual location of residence, have many photos of me, use proper age and relationship status, and use my real name; so I must not be Gorean.
  25. I have posted numerous times openly, stated repeatedly and stand by my convictions about what is “The Gorean Philosophy, the Gorean Ethos and the Gorean Lifestyle” , so I must not be Gorean.
  26. I will speak out against homophobic, anti-kink and general idiot thinking that seems to resonate in some Gorean circles, so I must not be Gorean.
  27. My philosophical characteristics are Gorean in nature; with special emphasis given to the Masculinity/femininity of each individual, so I must not be Gorean.
  28. I encourage and enjoy having a slave that performs slave positions, performs slave dances, will wear silks from time to time, enjoys sleeping on the floor by my feet, and is simply my property, so I must not be Gorean.
  29. I enjoy many rituals and formal observances; including physical, mental, demonstrative and visual participation. I encourage numerous Presentation Rituals, Public Greetings and many Private Presentations based on service, positions and various forms of dance and posture, so I must not be Gorean.
  30. I stress the importance on Freedom. The state of being free or at liberty. To establish personal sovereignty over oneself, and those under my responsibilities. This is done by my action, word and choice;  so I must not be Gorean.
  31. I made the conscientious decision to publicly proclaim that I was Gorean as an individual choice; not selected, approved or rubber stamped by others; so I must not be Gorean.
  32. When out in public, my girls wear clothing. This is even true when attending a munch at a local restaurant; so I must not be Gorean.
  33. I am not from Antarctica, so I must not be Gorean.


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Simple Ritual I Enjoy Being Done – Towel Service






Beautiful kajira performing towel service


The Gorean bath, of such a sort, has many purposes. The cleansing of the body, of course, is only one such purpose. It has two major purposes with respect to its effect on the girl. The first is that she is performing a lowly and humble task for a man. This helps to remind her that she is a slave. Also, of course, serving a man, particularly in small and humble ways, probably for biological reasons, tends to be sexually arousing for a woman.

Many men. I think, fail to understand that. When a girl brings a man his sandals and ties them on his feet she is having a sexual experience. Many men, I think, fail to understand the pervasiveness and radiance, the depth, and contextual richness, of female sexuality. It is such a wondrous, deep and marvelous thing.

He who denies a woman her right to serve man, and particularly in such small ways, denies to her a portion of herself; that man is not only a fool, for he is the natural recipient of such attentions, but he is cruel; such a denial, too, can make a woman ashamed to seek sexual gratification for such small services, usually unbeknownst to the boorish male, are intimately connected with such gratification; this is one reason, incidentally, that those who secretly fear sexuality, and would repudiate it, will be among the first to denounce such homely services of love.

In the case of the slave girl, of course, such services are commanded of her. She must perform them. This tells her then, on some deep level, that it is all right, truly, to be a woman. Indeed, she is given no choice but to be a woman. Thusly is her love unqualifiedly liberated. This type of thing, I think, accounts for something of the joy which is experienced by many slave girls, a joy which, otherwise, would seem inexplicable.

The second major purpose with respect to the effect on the girl, of course, is that she is touching and, in effect, in the bathing, caressing a man’s body. She is intimately close to the male, even to the extent of sensual tactility. Being alive and hormonally active, of course, this is arousing to her. And it is, of course, particularly arousing to a slave female, for she knows she is fit meat for the lust of men. Does her very condition not tell her that? Too, of course, she herself, though touching, is not touched. This is frustrating to her, naturally, and intensifies her desire, usually near the surface in a slave, to be taken in the arms of the master.

From the point of the man, too, of course, there are several purposes of the bath. Some of these are related to those pertinent to the girl. First, he is served, as the master. He is master. Second, it is not unpleasant to be washed humbly by a beautiful woman. Third, such service tends to arouse the girl. It is not uncommon, when such a bath has been finished, and he has been toweled by the beauty, that she kneels before him and begs to be raped.”

— Rogue of Gor – Page 203

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30 Years Ago…..



It is hard to believe that it was 30 years ago today, Saturday May 23rd 1987 that I had my wedding and established the Realm of the Purple Rose® Household!

A lot has changed over the years. We now have the internet, disco is dead (thank God!), Rush recently retired, and brace for it…. the Maple Leafs still have not won the Stanley Cup since Canada’s Centennial.

I am blessed to been able to have many people enrich and have a positive influence on my life. I have been privileged to have owned a few beautiful and wonderful women over the years. I have three beautiful children that have grown up, and become successful young adults in their chosen careers. My health is still very good, (although I do see myself slowing down just a little…).

I have travelled the world, doing missions service in Hong Kong, China, Egypt, Haiti, Cuba, New York City and several places in Canada.

I have been very active in politics and several Board of Directors. I have established a couple of ventures to enrich and benefit my local community.

All in all, I would not trade my Life and journey for anyone else’s. It has been a great 30 years proclaiming and living as a Gorean.

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What I Am Seeking In A Prospective Slave


I have been doing a lot of travelling and speaking lately. Being recently single for some time, there has been some interest from others asking what I am looking for in a slave.

Here is a link to a short, informative video that shares what I desire and need in a slave. Watch and discern if this is something you seek.

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‘Red Flags’ for Goreans


So… you started reading the Gor Book series, been searching the internet for more information, and wanting to move from online to real time.
So You Are New to Gor is a good place start to read and understanding some of the issues and concerns.

What draws Goreans together is the Books, the Philosophy and the Lifestyle. These are all wonderful things to learn, share and strive to live. With any group of people, there are always those who are genuine who will want the best for you; and those who may not have your own best interest at heart.

The following are some of the ‘RED FLAGS’ you should know about when meeting anyone new. The list is available so you can make a wise decision and understand about your safety and education.

1. Do not give out any personal information about yourself to someone you just met on the internet. (Actual name, address, workplace, etc..). Stalkers are real and active on any website, including Fetlife.
2. Do not meet anyone new alone, and without a safe call. Meet in a public place such as a restaurant or coffee shop. Always have a safe call.
3. If agreeing to cam online, understand the other person can take still photos and distribute at will. If doing any nudity, understand it may end up on the internet.
4. Do not give anyone your passwords to your email or FL account.
5. If they do not have any actual photos of themselves, or have a fake address posted, that could be a red flag.
6. If they say they have to be discreet and seem to be hesitant about sharing past relationships.
7. If they call you at odd hours and block their phone numbers.
8. If they try and isolate you from your friends and social activities you enjoy.
9. If they want to ‘protect you’ or ‘mentor you’ after only just meeting.
10. If they try and dictate who are your friends, and what groups to join.
11. If they say you are a ‘bad slave’ for not doing as they demand.
12. If they ask for money.
13. If all of their past relationships involved girls with emotional issues or government assistance.
14. If they cannot hold down a job.
15. If they degrade, belittle or undermine your self worth.
16. If they have a criminal record.
17. If they have jealousy issues and are insecure about themselves.
18. If they want to move in right away.
19. If they do not use safe words.
20. If they do not practice safe sex.
21. If they use drugs or drink a lot.
22. If they are always comparing themselves to everyone else.
23. If they demand you follow their rules, but they do not themselves.
24, If they lie and are deceiving.
25. If they tell you they are the best thing you will ever have.
26. If you are in a long distance online relationship, and you are ‘under protection’ or ‘under consideration’. They will make promises to meet IF you meet all their requirements, but continue to make excuses NOT to or UNABLE meet after several weeks or months. (You will never meet them).
27. If everything is your fault, and they take no responsibility for their actions, temper, etc.
28. If all your contact is on cam and they have you doing things that may jeopardize your safety.

Above are some of the ‘RED FLAGS’ to look out for. They may not be of concern if only one or two are present, but if there are several listed, be concerned. If you were nodding your head continually throughout this list – RUN AWAY!

In Leather

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Remembering the Collaring at the Airport

Back in 2008, I was in correspondence with a lovely lady from Halifax, Nova Scotia. She was a Free woman, but was very interested in wanting to see if 24/7 slavery could be a reality for her. After many emails, texts, and phone calls, we agreed to meet at the upcoming Everytodowithsexshow in Toronto in September 2008.

We hit it off right away, and she returned to Kitchener for the weekend to attend a local party and meet some of my friends. We spent time down at Kitchener City Hall, as well as a local club. It was a great weekend and visit.

city hall

At Kitchener City Hall

rotunda stairs

Inside Kitchener City Hall. Showed her the Committee Rooms I serve on. She has such a beautiful smile.


Outside Kitchener City Hall. I am always fooling around and making a scene….

Before she returned home to Halifax, we agreed to discuss in detail the possibilities of a 3 month Contract for her to explore her slavery. The Contract would begin in late October when I flew to Halifax, and would continue with several trips down East to January 2009.






Landing in Halifax on Friday October 24th 2008, I did a small Collaring Ceremony right the at the airport, as well as we signed the 3 Month Contract of her slavery.

Kneeling slave

slave kneeling before her Master at Halifax airport

2nd airport

Placing the Collar around her throat. She gasped and quivered with anticipation and excitement

3rd airport

Tears of joy and happiness as the Collar was bucked and snapped shut

4th airport

Happy slave in her new Collar at where else??? ——-> Tim Hortons inside Halifax airport

She was a beautiful girl. It was a very busy 3 months. Several trips down East. She was the Matriarch of Nova Scotia. Owned a dungeon and was very instrumental in organising the kink community there. Helped with her local community.

Unfortunately, the community came first, and we both realised that her calling and position was best served in helping to run and serve as a leader to the group there.

couch with LadyJ

Enjoying quiet time together. I was very, very proud of her.

It was a very positive Contract. She learned a lot of herself. The local community had some difficulty seeing their Matriarch kneeling at my feet and being a slave, but it was necessary for her to try and see if this could be a reality.

It was a very positive and rewarding experience for both of us.